Sunday, July 23, 2006

Lazy Sunday!

Well not really lazy, but somewhat lazy.

I went to Costco this morning, did a little grocery shopping, and then came home. Spenser went with my parents to see Monster House, in 3-d. He is now over at their house, he wants to eat dinner with them. I will have to go pick him up, but that is ok, this gives me a bit of a break from the tornado that is my son.

So what does someone do when they are told that they make their child worse? Basically being told that you suck at parenting?

I am not sure how to go about confronting this type of situation, mostly because it didn't happen to me, although I am sure while I was not mentioned, I was also being targeted. Since this was said about Rob, I am not quite sure what to do. I mean, obviously it is his issue to have, but it also makes me unhappy. Nobody wants to be told that they suck at parenting, in so many words. Especially when you have a child that has problems, and you yourself have issues.


I am also not very happy that Spenser is being excluded from certain activities, it really, really pisses me off. To me it shows a huge amount of favoritism, which is just wrong.

It also means that when Spenser finally figures out what he was excluded from, he will ask me why, and I will have to try to explain it to him, without making people out to be assholes. So very difficult.

Yesterday was just a banner day for being slighted and insulted by family. So I am of course stewing in it. I am supposed to go to the outlet mall with the in laws tomorrow, and now I seriously do not want to go. I don't want to be rude to them, but I am highly offended, and I know that I will end up being snippy.

I am sure that someone, who thinks they are qualified to make psychological assessments, has pointed out exactly what is wrong with my child, with my husband, and with me, and has made sure to blabber about how awful we are in dealing with Spenser.

It pisses me off because they have no fucking clue what it is like to live with this illness and the fall out from it.

And I find it hypocritical that this someone who has such huge issue with food, to the point of being a walking eating disorder, and is passing it on to their offspring, would somehow think that they are qualified to give out parenting advice.

I realize that the said offspring are "perfect", and therefore it would appear that this person knows of what they speak. However, this person is passing on something that is deadly, and does in fact effect the way one parents. Yet you don't hear them being called shitty parents.

For what it is worth, I love said children, and yes they do in fact seem to be perfect, even to me. It is the oneupmanship crap that I can't stand. It is childish, and frankly really sad that an adult finds the need to do this constantly. To me it points to a huge problem with self worth--like a lack of it, and so therefore they must make everyone think they are more then what they truly are. Hence the eating disorder as well.

Oh well. I was sure this day would arrive, as my child is loud, in your face, and is not a perfect angel. I had hoped however that people would know to keep their yaps shut. Apparently that is too much to ask.


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